Romans 12:18 | You Are Not Responsible for Their Side

If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.

Most people read this verse as a command to make peace. But the qualifiers Paul puts at the front of it are doing something really important. He is being honest before he gives the instruction. He is acknowledging that peace is not always possible. That some relationships do not resolve no matter how hard you work at them. That some people are not going to meet you halfway.

And then he draws a line that a lot of people in ministry desperately need someone to draw for them.

Your responsibility is your side.

In this episode we sit with what it actually means to be a peacemaker within the limits of what you can control. Why caring people tend to take on responsibility for outcomes they were never meant to carry. What it looks like to keep your hands open toward someone without pretending the damage did not happen. And why releasing what is not yours to carry is not giving up on peace. It is the only way to actually pursue it without destroying yourself in the process.

This one is for anyone who has been working harder on a relationship than the other person is working and has started to wonder if that means they failed.

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